There are some days that make you feel like you are pedalling a bicycle towards a steep mountain peak and there are others that make you feel the gentle breeze that comes from the ocean as you walk at the beach. We need both days in order for life to make sense though when we are experiencing the former, we tend to think that everything is against us. In fact, these are the days that force us to go beyond our comfort zones and to go through hurdles thus making us stronger.
For me, August was the month that embodied this tough climb. Even looking back now, I am wondering how I survived most of what I had to go through. I learnt some great life lessons that I am happy to share here to encourage anyone who may be going through a tough time or anyone who seeks to learn from other people’s experiences.
Gratitude is the key to having a happy life. Being content with whatever successes we achieve no matter how small, is a prerequisite for more success. It is easy to brush off small wins but it is important to acknowledge them. This is registered in our subconscious which gives you the motivation to continue pursuing your goals. If you don’t take a moment to celebrate yourself, most times, you’ll find that you develop the feeling that you are not doing enough, which should not be the case. Be grateful for every wins you have, whether little or big, because it all counts.
Self-doubt is real. This month showed me the kind of damage that doubt can do to us and especially when we do not believe in ourselves. Most times, I found myself questioning my decisions and thankfully for me, I had friends to help me snap out of this situation. My friends kept reminding me of the amount of hard work I have put into ensuring that I achieve my goals. It is important to recognize when we are creating a negative mind space because it is the worst thing that could happen to you. If you do not believe in yourself, how will you motivate yourself to go after your goals? In addition, surround yourself with people who have the best intentions for you so that they can identify when you are going down the self-doubt road, which is damaging.
You will meet bad people everywhere you go. I have had to deal with really nasty human beings and what I have learnt out of these experiences is that, these people do not define me in any way. Therefore, I have stopped giving any kind of importance to such human beings. If I need to work with them, I keep it professional and from then on, stay away from them. No one needs negative vibes in their life. Given that we cannot control who we meet, when you find yourself in a room with bad people, keep that distance and be aware of your environment at all times.
Pursue your dream with all your heart. I have always been a dreamer, and one of the things I have heard a lot is that I am ‘too ambitious’. First of all, I do not believe in such phrases because I believe that anyone can be whoever they want to be. It doesn’t mean that it is easy to achieve these dreams we have, but we should not be afraid to chase them no matter how crazy they seem. 9 years ago, I dreamt of studying abroad and as much as it has taken a lot of time and hard work to get here, I am finally living my dream. The journey has been challenging but definitely fulfilling. There’s definitely more about this coming up in my future blog posts, so stay tuned. 😊
These are the key lessons that I learnt in the month of August. It has been a difficult one but I have come out of it stronger. Daily reminder: live your life unapologetically and you owe it to yourself to achieve your goals.
PS: Today marks 5 years of my blogging journey. In the past year, I challenged myself to put out more content and I am thankful for the growth that I have had ever since. Little history: This blog started as a random thoughts platform, and then it became a hair blog and then after much thought, it became a personal storytelling platform. In between the changes, their was a lot of silence as I tried to figure out what to do. This platform best embodies my self discovery journey over the years.